“Any and all forms of separation, disconnects, divides, partings, breakups, and goodbyes are temporary. Very.
You’ll be together far, far longer than you will ever be apart.
Forever and ever,
The Universe”©Mike Dooley, http://tut.com
It it’s meant to be, it will be. Never force things that aren’t suppose to happen. We often try to do things and persist on our actions in the hope that we will change or the other person will change. In the matter of the heart, it works the same way. Both party will try to change each other, will act a certain way in the hope that the other one will catch up and mirror their actions and behaviors. Everyone enters a relationship in the hope to MOLD the other person the way they hope them to be. Let me all give you a little WAKE UP call! That won’t happen. That will NEVER happen, either today, tomorrow or for the rest of your life. You should accept the person the way they are and not try to change them. You will end up being very aggravated and wonder why you can’t find the right person. Learn to accept the other the way they are and if you don’t like it, then LEAVE. It’s not that difficult. Try to figure what you want early in the relationship to avoid investing to much energy and love with someone who doesn’t deserve you. You will end up in a lot of pain and most of all, be left with bad memories and never allow yourself to ever fall in love again.
If you start feeling that the relationship isn’t going the way you anticipated, especially after doing a lot of compromising, either you make demands for things to change and if they don’t, you just leave. If the person isn’t willing to invest in you by making you happy, nothing will happen tomorrow or ever. Never allow yourself to be the ONLY one making the necessary change to bring peace to the relationship. Never forgo your happiness at anyone’s expense. This is not how a real relationship should be. It’s a two way street and it is important to make sure that the effort is put in on both side. To guarantee a healthy relationship. communication should come easy and keeping an open mind when dealing with stressful situation is a must to find effective resolution. Couples who are meant to be together will stay together but if you are looking for peace and serenity, you need to make sure that you both keep each other happy throughout this journey. By doing activities together, such as running, weightlifting, hiking or whatever else you both share interest is what will keep you moving forward. Always keep a good sense of humor and NEVER take life to seriously. It’s not worth it.
Dr. Dan Amzallag, PhD