“Sure, you can always find prettier, handsomer, skinnier, wiser, richer, younger, zippier. But more often than not, one learns the most, laughs the loudest, and smiles the widest with those they’ve already found, especially when they stop looking elsewhere.
The Universe”©Mike Dooley, http://tut.com
I couldn’t agree more than with this message. In today’s society, the new generation do not understand the concept of patience, hard work, compromise, flexibility and focus to much on instant gratification. Relationship nowadays, including marriages, isn’t valued as much as the early 60 and 70’s. At the first sign that something goes wrong, people tend to just break up or stay but stray. The proof of this statement is the website Ashley Madison, where hackers just published over 38 millions people who have had or intention to have affairs. Because of this security breach, there is a class action suit against Ashley Madison because they didn’t protect the identity of those who wanted to stray. Ok now, sorry for being ignorant here, but don’t you see something wrong here with this thinking? It is just like people accusing the fast food industry for becoming obese. Come on people, don’t you see there is something wrong with your thought process? Did the fast food industry had a gun to your head and forced you to eat crap? Did Ashley Madison forced you to have an affair? Did they send someone to your house to cheat on your spouse? No, it was ALL YOU. So stop freakin complaining for the website not protecting your identity to continue this kind of shameful act of adultery.
People need to learn to assume responsibility for their own actions. Stop pointing fingers to someone else for whatever is happening in your life. If you are not happy in your relationship, do something about it. Go to therapy, counseling, work on reconnecting together to avoid having to find yourself among the other 38 million people who will face divorce and financial disaster. Yes, I agree that there is probably someone better, someone richer, someone wiser, younger and prettier but remember that you committed to the person you chose 10 or 15 years ago. WE all age and lose our looks and passion for intimacy, but again, it is not always the other person’s fault. You both decided to make a life together and face the challenges and overcome them TOGETHER. If there is a problem, don’t fall accidentally in someone else private parts and say: “oops, it wasn’t my fault, i just feel and found myself being physically intimate with that strange woman/man”. People aren’t stupid, so just quit it. For all those who got caught on the Ashley Madison massacre, I wish you the best of luck and I guess this will be a good year for Divorce lawyers. I bet you that they are all looking at new Ferrari to buy, new vacation homes, best gadgets and lots of fun times. Like everything else in life, one person’s misfortune can be someone else fortune.
Dr. Dan Amzallag, PhD, MBA, CLC
Author/Inspirational Speaker/Life Coach