“In the beginning, the price of giving great love, is risking that it won’t be returned.
Until you understand, of course, that great love is always returned.
The Universe”©Mike Dooley, http://tut.com
With every great relationships comes great responsibilities. You can’t be just sitting around, not putting in the effort and expect the relationship to grow. Just like your business venture, if you want it to explode and make millions of dollars, you have to work hard until you reach that goal. So why are relationships so risky? Well, there is always ONE party that will love the other more and it won’t be reciprocal. Yes, you need love to stay in a relationship but it will depend on the degree of how you love that person. There is always a risk that you will be investing all your energy and love into that person without seeing much of a return on your investment. You will travel the world and climb the tallest mountain on earth to make this relationship work while the other would give up on you when facing a difficult challenge. Loving someone is taking a big risk as you may never see that same love coming back to you. The risk is there, the question is: Are you willing to take that risk?
Marriage is not the same as it was in prior generation. People nowadays do not take the vows as seriously as they did in the past. When the first major obstacle kicks in, both parties involved are ending up fighting like animals with no possible truce in sight. Handling conflict is definitely a must in every relationship but people in relationships aren’t trained properly. In a girlfriend/boyfriend scenario, major conflicts usually end in break-up as they do not have the same challenges of going through the legal system to separate and divorce like the married couples. If the love is not equal for both parties involved, something may go wrong in the long run. How can you equally love each other? I guess you will never know unless you talk about it and both of you are brutally honest with each other. It is important to always keep an open line of communication and be truthful to each other, even if it hurts. You can’t be staying with the same person if you are not ready to do everything you can to make the relationship work, including not knowing if they love you equally. Loving someone is very risky, so are you willing to take that risk? That question remained to be answered.
Dr. Dan Amzallag, PhD